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straightforwardness?

I think its bull, in my opinion.
Allow me to explain myself.
Look at the different scenarios i want to present my case:
  1. That friend of yours is a really close one?
  2. Human A condemns/assumes human B that he/she/it wouldnt listen, so dont bother
  3. That friend was never really one? Just an acquaintance maybe?

SCENE ONE: That friend is your close one.

Look, if he/she/it is your loved one/cared one you will, in anyway you like, tell he/she/it that there's this freaking big problem of he's/she's/it's that is obstructing proper pek-cek-free conversation between the both of you.

It is cruel, having the need to spell out the truth, and it hurts terribly. However, it is better to tell one, then to suddenly drift away, to being pissed off, and *poof!* your friendship's gone. HENCE. i see this "straightforwardness" extremely important in salvaging your friendship.

BUT.
dear one and all, dreams ain't reality isn't it?
If all are able to take criticisms/comments/judgement, there wouldn't be war.
If all are able to see your light, your point, where you getting at and not, misinterpreting it/assumming something/condemning, there wouldn't be conflict.
Sadly, living in dystopia such as school, where in this case, could be just trival matters like communication breakdown/conversation breakdowns.

hell no. BECAUSE, we're humans. We are complex creatures, that sometimes too paranoid/too insensitive for our own good. THENCE, there cannot be proper "straightforward" conversation unless, you're not afraid of offending the other.

My opinion: If you really love your friend, you will tell him/her where to improve, how people are judging him/her and stand by him/her side.

SCENE 2:
Human A condemns/assumes human B that he/she/it wouldnt listen, so dont bother

AWW. I think all of us are guilty of this. so do I.
BECAUSE, I assume the person's character. I assume
he/she/it wouldnt listen, he/she/it is just plain old stubborn as a mule, he/she/it is just not the type that is able to accept comments, he/she/it is this, he/she/it that.

We, just have so much to say and assume of others.

Well well well, I must say, some ARE really like this. They would scold you for telling them how to improve, and even suan you after that, "Think you very good also meh? your social network also not say big like till singapore this island." Oh well, I did mention that humans ain't perfect, right?

But in my opinion, TRY.

So many, say how they confront their friends, how they settle personal relation skills in school, how this how that. But few can actually really put their words or "experience" (that I'm highly skeptical of) into actions. There! Point in being straightforward is null.

We assume 101 things, and we're afraid of offending the opposite, thinking it's so troublesome having to face all the awkwardness it would cause after confronting, we give up being straightforward.

he/she/it isn't MY/YOURS/HE'S/HER'S FRIEND.

SCENE THREE: That friend was never really one? Just an acquaintance maybe?

Simple, easy and straightforward.
YOU depend on he/she/it for either:

  1. Materials you need for homework/project
  2. Questions to ask in doubt
  3. Complete whatever group assignments assigned by teachers to be done in class
  4. Just to treat he/she/it like a friend to talk to when no one's there beside
  5. Just for your convenience to be made used of

Hey! Please don't ever think that I'm making homosapiens to be too scheming (the above are actually too kind), remember, this world, this place, this society is a pragmatic one. We only have ourselves, see ourselves, and can only bear ourselves. This selfish thinking/behaviour is the least in everyone's heart I guess, yet again, I'm assuming.

In this scenario, you maynot be bothered to tell he/she/it to change for the better.
There again, straightforward bullshit crap.

Me for instance, or Nicole, WOULD tell each other what we don't like about each other.

In my opinion:
I THOUGHT, friendship was about give and take. Was to take care of each other, to have fun and PLAY at appropriate timings, that is. To suddenly turn cold to one, or just for pure making use of, it's not ethical. However, if you think it's perfectly fine, I'm speechless.

Why the sudden crap on straightfowardness?

ahh. good question.
There she is, asking what the hell the problem is,
all she get is silent awkwardness.
full stop?

This really speaks loud about how much is that friendship worth.
Straightforward is an art I guess.
To master it tactfully, to handle it.
Speak forth your mind, and you get burned by people's rebuttals.
Speak schemingly, tackle the situation properly and you have your problems resolved.

you are Straightforward?
Think again.
Cause they can neither tell her WTH their problem is/her problem is.
Or is because there's a saying, " No news are the best news."

Henceforth, "No answers are the best answers"?
Bull. This are all bull.

Straightforward is getting your point across to the opposite, without beating round the bush and letting the opposite misinterpret your speech/intentions. no?

Straightforward sucks.
it's bull.

berlindaang
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